SELECT THE PLACE AND TIME
The place you choose to announce your separation decision is very important. Maybe you don’t mind being in a crowded shopping mall or a cafe, but think about it from the other person’s perspective. You should choose a place where he/she will feel comfortable.
MAKE YOUR TIMING WELL
This is not an issue that can be squeezed into tight times. You should choose a day when both you and your lover will spare enough time for this conversation, not on a lunch break or on a day when you have to rush somewhere.
TALK
Express what is on your mind, your feelings towards him, and the problems in your relationship without hurting him. Of course, give him a chance to talk. Don’t let the dialogue turn into a fight.
BE CLEAR
It’s important to be clear, as beating around the bush and sounding like you’re unsure will create the impression that there’s a possibility you’ll come back. After all, you have decided on something and now you are in the implementation phase. Since you are convinced that this relationship can no longer last for you, you must convince the other person of this as well. Avoid using sentences that start with “I think.”
BE HONEST
Your partner will of course have many questions. Don’t sound angry when you answer them. Instead of blaming him and exonerating yourself, you can honestly say that you are the reason for the breakup. This will also save you from remorse.
EXPLAIN THE REASON FOR THE BREAKUP
If you continue the sentence “I want to end the relationship because…” by citing the problems caused by you or the other person, everything will become clear and he will not be insistent on you.
BE PREPARED FOR AFTER BREAKUP
When you end the relationship and completely cut ties, it’s not really over. Men may not be able to stop themselves from seeking second chances. State unequivocally that you are not willing to meet again.
NEW LIFE WILL NOT BE EASY
Of course, your new life will not be easy for you either. After all, there is no separation without crying! There will be times when you will be sad, maybe look for your old habits, and miss them. But be strong and remember that these are temporary. Spend more time with your friends and try to adapt to your new life.