Murvet within murvet, that is, a traditional ‘murvetception’ story can be directly proportional to the order of work, food and spouse. However, this is not enough, the branches of protection and survival of the aftermath ask you the question: When is the child? If you are a little more lucky, you can be one of those who say ‘I can have children, too; because for non-mothers, making a career is already child’s play! In addition to all these, if you have a non-deviant relationship with yourself, you have to put up with questions and propositions like “Is there someone new, when is the marriage, you won’t get married anymore” that pops into your head like water droplets, like origami paper? You fold, you fold, you fold, and finally you key in to get into shape: I need to end being single immediately! Congratulations, you have become a member of murvetception.
As a matter of fact, getting married and having a family doesn’t sound bad at all; however, the changing world order also transforms some of the prejudices we encode in our minds. Just as in the past centuries, ‘hello state, look, I am making love to this person’ does not require a signature; celibacy is no longer the only motivation, but the desire to end it as soon as possible. According to last year’s reports from research firm Wunderman Thompson Intelligence, compared to older generations, today’s society accepts singles without question, according to 79 percent of American youth; again, 86 percent of singles in America are very happy that they can make their own financial decisions; 84 percent of Chinese youth think that society gives too much importance to family life. In addition, researches show that many married people lose the ability to make decisions on their own and therefore constantly blame their spouses for wrong decisions; confirms that many singles are happier than their co-workers.
So, does that mean marriage is now a bad idea? Of course not. But research shows that traditional stereotypes of the single lifestyle are no longer valid. The days of being unhappy, angry, wanting to get married as soon as possible or, on the contrary, completely against a relationship, not loving children, being single, are long gone. The single age, that is, the ‘single age’, is starting a new era as a conscious choice.
Singleness is Partnership with Yourself!
At the end of last year, actress Emma Watson used the word ‘self partnered’ for her relationship status in an interview. He emphasized that being single was a choice for him, saying, in a way, ‘my partner with myself’. Of course, this statement brought with it a lot of controversy. How can one become partners with himself? California-based Clinical Psychologist Carla Marie Manly explains that partnering with yourself; She says she focuses on the ideal of being happy and complete as a solitary individual, adding: “The person becomes integrated and satisfied within himself and does not feel compelled to have another person.”
So if you have chosen to partner with yourself, to be single at heart, you are far from fearing ‘missed luck’ and describing being single as a terrible situation that needs to be ended immediately. That’s why the ‘self partnered’ fear of missed chance, as defined by Emma Watson, and ‘is there someone in your life?’ turned off her questions and whether or not she has someone in her life; It expresses the philosophy of those who have succeeded in being ‘single at heart’ whether they are married or not.
Relationship Status: Single at Heart
Today, there is a big change in the definition of relationship status because younger generations are now developing a different perspective, especially on individuality, contrary to the standards of traditional generations. For example, another name who is aware of this change, actress Gwyneth Paltrow, suggests the definition of ‘conscious separation’ due to the negative connotations of the word ‘divorce’.
Being single at heart or partnering with yourself as a first step, you need to get rid of the social burden of needing another partner. It is of great importance to spend time getting to know yourself first and not to feel stressed by the ‘it’s time to be single’ motivation. Of course, all this does not mean breaking off relationships or even being alone. Specialist Psychologist Nurdan Büyükak on the subject says: “On an individual basis, if a person has problems in establishing a relationship, and therefore bonding, then it can be thought that there is a problem.
However, if being single is one’s choice, it is not right to look at it as a problem. Most of the time, finding a partner doesn’t mean guaranteeing happiness. If you ask why, when a person is not happy individually, he or she cannot be happy in a relationship. The fact that a woman is married or single should not determine her identity so much in the eyes of society. In other words, it is a whole of biological, psychological, sociological and cultural fields. It’s not just her cultural preferences that show how strong, happy or unhappy she is.” If you are already in a relationship, you might ask yourself this question: How can I be myself when choosing paths in my life? This question will give you a clue as to whether you are staying single at heart. On the contrary, if you are single right now, sit back and ask ‘when will you get married?’ Enjoy single age by continuing to laugh at their questions.