Technology and the internet give women and men the chance to chat with people they don’t know, even flirt, and sometimes experience virtual sexuality. None of this poses a problem for the single and voluntarily involved, but for married couples, virtual dating is a problem. Stating that this is a deception, albeit virtual, Uzm. Ps. Pekcan said, “Some men think that it is not cheating because there is no physical contact, but they are wrong. They never accept that their spouses do the same. On the other hand, they can blame their spouses for this and say, ‘He is not interested in me at all, he does not talk’. However, they are generally not interested in whether they give their partner the opportunity to communicate. Their second defense is ‘What will I talk to the person I’m with every day?’ is in the form. They say they can talk to other people more easily, but other people are often not same-sex, they prefer the opposite sex,” she says. Stating that this situation is due to the fact that people have a very high need for admiration, Pekcan said, “The desire to be admired in marriages or relationships remains unsatisfied. Let Formsanté readers ask themselves, when was the last time they told their partner they looked so handsome? However, by posting your favorite photo on social networks, you can attract the attention of the other party.WOMEN’S FORUMS
Maybe you are one of those people who want to add color to your sex life in this way but do not know what to do… Yet technology is at your service again… The Internet lies in front of you as a storehouse of information. For example, women’s forums… Do you think women still talk about what to feed their babies or what diapers to use in these forums? Even if these are the initial purposes, women are now also sharing this kind of information in some forums. What you read here will also make you realize that sexual games are not as immoral as it is thought, that everyone has similar needs and experiences, and in a sense, it will relax you. exp. Ps. Gizem Pekcan warns about this: “Be aware that the information and suggestions you obtain on the Internet may not be 100 percent accurate.”
PORNOGRAPHY
Another important issue that can cause problems between couples is watching porn movies. Although men are much more comfortable in this regard and can only focus on sexual intercourse, women tend to be jealous of women who play in these movies. On the other hand, while men are more stimulated with visuals, women give priority to being touched and nice words. However, watching such movies gives couples an idea to have different experiences. Here, it should not be forgotten that both parties should volunteer and take pleasure in this matter. Otherwise, problems arise in the relationship.
WRITE YOUR OFFER
You have decided to add color to your sexual life, now you are ready for innovations, but you do not know how to tell him… Here again, technology comes into play. You can gradually imply the things that you are afraid to say face to face at the beginning by writing a message or e-mail to your partner, and you can take the first step more comfortably on this path.
VIRTUAL GAMES
If you start researching, you will come across some games. Here is an example… By turning a virtual wheel, you can determine in which room of the house and in which position you will have sex that day. Thus, you get rid of the monotony of always being together in the bedroom and always in the same position.
VIRTUAL SEX
Do you think that virtual sex is only a form of relationship that men have with women they do not know, perhaps in exchange for money? If so, we’re sorry, but you’re way behind the times. Even couples living in the same house now use virtual sex as a fantasy. They start video conversations with their technological devices in different rooms, and they experience the excitement of being so close to each other and yet so far away.
Do not think that sexuality experienced in this way can replace sensual contact. exp. Ps. Gizem Pekcan says that both have their place and that sometimes this kind of game can be much more enjoyable than a sensual contact.
MESSAGING ON
Many couples, especially men, find texting unnecessary, thinking, “If I have something to say, I’ll call.” However, there is a mysterious side to texting. exp. Ps. Gizem Pekcan asks: “Who doesn’t get excited when they see a message from the person they love, and wonder what they wrote? However, when a phone call is made, it is immediately thought to be called for a more mundane subject. Texting is also a very small tactic that will not harm anyone in stimulating sexual life. hints like… Whether it’s a woman or a man… But it’s a fact that such messages will prepare the woman for the evening’s relationship much better. We should not hesitate to do these things.”
DON’T LET FAILURE BE AN EXCUSE
“Sexuality is actually the biggest tool that couples can use to get rid of stress and get rid of the tiredness of the day,” said Uzm. Ps. Gizem Pekcan said, “However, many people see it as a duty and prefer to avoid it on the pretext of being tired. When people stay in their own stress, their tolerance for each other decreases. They get stressed out again because they choose ways to get rid of stress and then leave each other out. In the end, they feel restless inside the house because they have no communication, no sharing. It is women who mostly complain about this. In long-term relationships, fewer complaints come from men. “They think it’s okay as long as they’re comfortable when they come home and have sex whenever they want, even if it’s for a little while.”
Article: Yaprak Cetinkaya / Formsanté
Until recently, we talked about the negative effects of television on human relations, and we talked about the fact that couples fell asleep in front of the television in the evenings. But at least those times were spent in the same hall, touching and chatting once in a while. Then, after increasing channels and increasing series, this time the period of watching separate programs in separate rooms began. Now, tablets and smartphones have been added to this change, and ruptures have started in both the relationship and the bed. Many people take their phones and tablets with them, wandering alone in the endless world called the internet, not with their partner.
Gizem Pekcan, a specialist psychologist from the Pandemos Psychology Center, says that the thing that couples have been most worried about in recent years is that when they come home in the evenings, the man sits in front of the TV and watches a sports program, while the woman feels lonely and prefers to spend time on the Internet, and adds: “And then they accuse each other of indifference. . In fact, the solution is simple… Watching television or accessing the internet is actually not a bad thing and is now a necessity. But it is not difficult to do this together, to watch a program together, to read and laugh on the internet together, and even to spend an hour just chatting before doing all these in the evening. Because when you don’t do this, dating, flirting, and therefore sexuality begins to be forgotten. Sleeping in front of the television is increasing, the number of mergers is decreasing. You can become like two strangers living in the same house.”
“Failed” mergers
Only the decrease in the frequency of sexual intercourse does not indicate that the sexual life is adversely affected. Even if we are together with the same frequency, the decrease in the time allocated for sex, the tendency of men to experience accelerated sex, the thought of “Let’s make love for five minutes before going to sleep” turns into a habit over time, away from foreplay and games. As a result, the unsatisfied woman begins to experience sexual reluctance because women want more time to be spent, courting, saying nice words, being caressed and kissed.
VIDEO TALK
A computer or just a smartphone… And a person you would want to experience it with… Video chat is a savior in every sense, especially for couples who have to live far away from each other from time to time… It is also in your hands to spice up your video conversations, and to draw you into conversations that will ignite you. You don’t have to miss each other’s eyes only, you can involve your whole body in these conversations.
If there is no sharing, the problem is too much.
Women, on the other hand, wait all day long for their husbands to come home, especially if they are not working, they want to share, and when this does not happen, they become intolerant. The most common mistake is to complain about other reasons instead of saying why they are complaining. They begin to say, “You threw your shirt over there”, “You left your glass there”. They use such details as tools that they can tolerate under normal conditions.
Saying that we won’t be alone…
Since human is a being who cannot bear to be alone, both men and women feel the need to communicate and share when technology is not so common. However, nowadays, everyone has a friend who is always with them: the Internet… And on the Internet, there is a chance to reach many different people instantly. It doesn’t matter what your emotional connection with these people is. Therefore, the development of technology has greatly affected people’s one-to-one relationships, but Exp. Ps. Pekcan says that the only responsible for this is not technology, but people themselves. exp. Ps. Pekcan says, “Actually, we have the chance to use technology to strengthen relationships, and this is actually the purpose of social networks to emerge… However, we use it to get away from each other and to withdraw into ourselves.”
Let technology serve sex
After all these negativities, let’s look at the other side of the coin. Instead of being a slave to technology, would you like to turn it into a tool for your sexual happiness? Or do you get “unethical” impressions when you see the words sexuality and technology together? Think again… Technology can bring color to your sex life. exp. Ps. Gizem Pekcan said, “As long as there is no escape to extreme pathologies in sexuality and there is a desire on both sides, we cannot characterize anything as perversion. Because basically, sex is done for reproductive purposes. The condition of reproduction is sexual intercourse.” she says.