They say some have light. All eyes are sure to turn to them wherever they enter. They don’t have to be very beautiful, they can attract men’s attention in any way and start a relationship. Maybe you are such a person. Sometimes your light goes out. You may have despaired of experiencing the same scenario over and over again in relationships, or of meeting or dating that did not turn into a relationship. Then you should ask yourself the following question, says Hypnosis and Guided Meditation Specialist Seda Diker: “Are we afraid of being hurt, not being trusted, not being liked…” When we don’t feel truly ready, our love light goes out. We send negative messages to men with our body language, even telepathically, and we don’t even realize it. So how do we prepare ourselves for love and attract attention when we enter an environment? Here are Seda Diker’s suggestions on this subject:
• To re-light your love light, you can start by changing your inner voice, which you are not aware of, to mean “I am ready for a very satisfying and safe love.”
• You can stand in front of the mirror, make your eyes look flirty, and change your body language by exercising for a while.
CHANGE YOUR THOUGHT PATTERNS
Perhaps one of the biggest mistakes we make when starting a relationship is to think that the new one will be like our old relationships. However, every relationship appears as a brand new experience. Psychologist Ayşegül Denizci lists the ways to a successful relationship as follows:
• Let’s choose our relationships with people with whom we have more similarities. Then we will have fewer conflicts in areas where we think differently.
• It is very important to have common dreams. We should build our lives together as much as possible, increase common interests and make room for entertainment.
• Spend as much time together as possible. Of course, you shouldn’t walk around like conjoined twins, but being constantly apart also negatively affects relationships.
WHAT SHOULD YOUR IMAGE BE?
Image and Communication Specialist İnci Yeşilyurt says, “If we do not want to be upset, it is very important that we are perceived correctly.” That’s why you need to be clear about what you want, your expectations, and not be a dreamer. For example, if you are jealous, you will not have a relationship with a man who does not want to be with a jealous woman, or you will reduce your jealousy. If you wait for him to change, you will have conflict. Because you will be trying to change him while he already makes it clear what kind of person he does not want to be with. Waiting for that relationship to work is the biggest mistake. In addition, you should also pay attention not to overdo your feminine appearance and to be careful in your conversations! Your married friends are increasing in number. You’re the only one who goes to school meetings alone. You’re waiting for love to knock on your door like in the TV series, and you’re constantly asking “what am I missing?” If all these sentences suit you, here are your suggestions!
DO NOT TRY TO UNDERSTAND
According to Life Coach and Relationship Therapist Nevşah Fidan Turan, in order for a woman to be attracted to a man and direct him towards a relationship, her thought system must be as follows:
• He has a completely different perspective, perception, feeling and thought than me.
• I will never understand it.
• He will never understand me either.
• I am very different compared to him, I feel different, I look differently, I think differently.
• We have completely different characteristics from each other.
At this point, when we accept the fact that we cannot change the other person, the mystery of the “man-woman” relationship is revealed. A woman who has accepted the differences no longer begins to compromise with the man or become friends, but to “discover” him. Considering that the same process will work in reverse and the other man will want to discover the characteristics in you, the mystery and attraction at the beginning of the relationship creates a field of mutual attraction.