C. It’s hard to say normal or not in situations like this. But in our opinion, do not make this request of him. Your boyfriend is demanding something like this without knowing what to hear. But guys never like to hear stories about their girlfriend’s past relationships. Instead, tell him about your dreams and the fantasies you want to make. So try to talk about the future, not the past. When you find another way to warn him, he will not have such a demand.
Q. My boyfriend changed things in his house. He threw almost everything. But the ‘memories’ from her ex are still in her closet. This is bothering me. Should I say this?
C. If your boyfriend kept his grade school report cards in his locker, would you accuse him of being a kid? Isn’t your answer ‘no’? Little gifts from his old relationship, teddy bears, maybe an ornament… These don’t show that he still loves her. These just show that she doesn’t hate her ex and that she still remembers some moments well. Allow this. But if it’s a love letter or photos that you call a souvenir, then you might be worried. In this case, it’s good to talk.
Q. One of my wife’s best friends is cheating on her. Ever since I learned this, I get restless when my wife talks to him. But I don’t want to put bans on him either. What should I do?
C. Although we always say that it is not right to impose bans, it seems as if we need to intervene in this matter. Because experts say that a man whose friend is cheating may be more sympathetic to the idea of cheating on his wife. Know that your spouse will not say, ‘Of course, if you don’t want to, I won’t talk to him’. The first reaction is usually ‘His private life is none of my business’. Try to tell her about the worries you had during her time with that friend. Express that you are afraid this will affect your relationship. It’s best to tell your problem directly. Remember, you don’t want to convince him that his friend is a bad person. Only discuss the part that concerns your relationship. The correct sentence is: “I’m afraid you’re cheating on me because what your friend did doesn’t seem wrong to you.” Listen carefully to the answer and make the decision together.
Q. I usually have a headache during sex. What could be the reason?
C. Your problem is most likely a sexual headache. This means that the veins in your head expand when you are aroused. This makes you feel restless and under pressure. One of the reasons for this may be to force your neck area too much. This type of pain usually starts just before orgasm and ends 7-8 hours after the completion of sexual intercourse. No need to worry. But if you do not want this situation to harm your relationship, we recommend that you consult your doctor. Because there is no way to get rid of these headaches completely. But there are ways to deal with it and enjoy sex.