Wallace interviewed psychologists and worked with a researcher at the Harvard Graduate School of Education to survey 6,500 parents across the United States.
In his research, Wallace encountered parents who thought that it was their ‘children’, not themselves, who insisted on enrolling in many difficult classes and extracurricular activities.
Wallace told CNBC Make It that parents who achieve healthy and successful results sometimes hold their children back in this regard, do not encourage them for every opportunity, and sometimes set limits.
Wallace says that these children often just reflect the environment around them; for example, they are trying to stand out amid increasing competition to get into the nation’s top colleges.
According to the article, research shows that attitudes and behaviors can be contagious. Anxiety and stress of children and young people; This may be exacerbated by other students who are stressed due to school or extracurricular activities. According to Wallace, in such a situation, families should step in and make the child slow down.
Wallace is one of the successful families in this regard. “In our house, you have to sleep eight to nine hours a night. You have to have time to spend time with your family and friends. You have to take breaks and rest.” he says.
Accordingly, you may need to slow down sometimes. Parents of successful children told Wallace it was important to model healthier habits and relationships: “Don’t overload your own schedule with work either. Get enough sleep and make sure you have regular free time to spend with your family.”
CHILDREN SEE INCONSISTENCY
“Our children see the dissonance between our words and our actions when we exhaust ourselves trying to provide the best for them,” Wallace says in his book.