Prof. from Memorial Şişli Hospital Liaison Psychiatry Department. Dr. Sedat Özkan stated that in order for marriages to last, couples must be equal in age and social status, and said, “The separation of couples who are happy in different places and have different interests is inevitable.”
Özkan noted that the main reasons for divorce are social, economic, sexual and psychological problems between couples.
Stating that age and social status determine the future of marriage, Özkan said, “For marriages to last, it is very important that couples are equal to each other. If the education level and sociological structure of men and women are too far apart, this will reduce the sharing between couples and increase conflict. In addition, lifestyles and habits in marriages are different.” , causing significant problems over time
“It is happening,” he said.
Özkan stated that the relationships continued beautifully and harmoniously for a few years, that over time the man got tired, and the woman wanted to continue an active and fun life with the energy of her youth, and continued as follows:
“The separation of couples who are happy in different places and have different interests is inevitable. Couples should be left free to make decisions. One of the reasons for divorce is living with mother-in-law and father-in-law in the same house, which is a problem for the majority of people in our country. Expecting newlywed couples to keep up with an established order is a big deal.” It is a mistake. Couples who cannot create a lifestyle and be independent cannot embrace their own marriage, and it becomes difficult for the couple to come together and transition from the role of son of the house to the role of wife.
It is important for the future of their marriage that they decide for themselves, from where they will live to their children’s education. “Living with the extended family model makes it difficult for the parties to express their opinions and make their choices easily, and causes erosion between husband and wife.”
“Decreasing sharing destroys the harmony of couples”
Özkan emphasized that there are many unhappy marriages where women do not have economic independence or that last for the sake of children, and that sexual problems have become an unspoken but disturbing problem over time.
Pointing out that the man experiences sexuality with his body and the woman with her brain, Özkan stated that this difference causes other problems that have not been solved over time to be reflected in the sexual life of couples.
Özkan mentioned that personality conflicts between couples are also an important factor in divorce and continued as follows:
“While women adapt more quickly to the roles that life has prepared for them, this also takes time for men. While women can enter the role of motherhood before they become mothers, men can adapt to this role after becoming a father. In this process, the sharing that naturally decreases makes it difficult for couples to understand each other, leading to loss of harmony.” “does.”
Özkan suggested that couples apply for relationship therapy before deciding to divorce. Stating that couples’ problems can be solved with therapy, but it is not easy to convince men to undergo therapy, Özkan also noted that this situation makes it impossible to solve the problems.