Sex is one of the most important sharing in marriage. Because the act of sex is not just for having children. This action brings the couples closer to each other and strengthens the bond of unity and solidarity between them. If a couple has not had sexual intercourse before marriage, the night the marriage takes place and the couple will have sex for the first time is called nuptial night. It is perfectly normal for a couple who has never had sex before to experience stress, tension, fear and even embarrassment peculiar to this night.
Turkey is a country where sexuality is considered taboo. Especially young girls living in small places get married without knowing about sex. Men, on the other hand, usually have hearsay. Women who do not know about sexuality may worry that they will experience great pain and heavy bleeding when they are with their spouses for the first night. Men, on the other hand, may experience great stress fearing that they will have erectile dysfunction or fail with premature ejaculation.
How is the Wedding Night?
The presence of the Internet has somewhat reduced the stress of the wedding night. Now couples can find answers to their questions via the internet. However, there is an intense information pollution on the internet, especially about sex.
So, what are the things to do on the first night? First of all, couples need to let themselves be completely natural to their instincts. Reliable sources, medical books or the opinions of specialist physicians can be used.
Especially in women, the fear of the first night is experienced more intensely. The fear of suffering is accompanied by the fear of painful rupture of the hymen, and moreover, the fear of not tearing the hymen and not getting any blood. In areas where sexual pressure is intense, the absence of bleeding means that young women have had sexual intercourse before. Here, women need to know that not every hymen is the same. The hymen may not be painful at all, if it is elastic it does not hurt and does not even bleed. Many couples’ first night would be much more enjoyable if women had the chance to learn this information. Of course, the communication and trust relationship between the couples is also extremely important in this regard.
What to do on the Wedding Night
For some reason, there is an opinion in society that it is absolutely necessary to have intercourse on the wedding night, which is the wedding night. However, couples do not have to have their first sexual intercourse tonight. Weddings are stressful events. When fatigue and tension come into play, couples may not want to have sex on the first night, and there is nothing wrong with that. The important thing is that couples follow their instincts and act as they see fit. In this way, the relationship between them will be more enjoyable. However, after a couple who loves each other is already in skin contact, their relationship will continue. You don’t need to be an expert in sex to have sex on the wedding night. People have innate sex drives, and the mutual lust of a loving couple will turn into a smooth sexual relationship. Before thinking about how to have intercourse on the wedding night, it is healthier to think about how to be protected. If the couple does not want to have children immediately, they should have decided on the methods of contraception before sexual intercourse.
In order to spend the wedding night well, first of all, you need to get rid of the pressure on you and leave yourself alone. In the first intercourse, the woman may contract herself more than necessary or the man may ejaculate prematurely. This does not indicate that the man has a problem or that the woman has vaginismus. This is just the first night and couples may have some difficulties in having sexual intercourse due to tension. This situation is extremely natural.
For a problem-free and painless sexual intercourse, the man must be erect and the woman must have vaginal wetness. A long foreplay is essential for these to happen. This foreplay is also beneficial for women and men to relieve their tension and get rid of embarrassment. At this point, especially the man should not be hasty and be patient with his wife. If the woman’s vaginal wetness is not sufficient, it can hurt a lot during intercourse. This may also result in the woman’s fear of intercourse. The woman should not be traumatized in her first relationship and the man should act compassionately.
If you are going to have sexual intercourse for the first time tonight, it is useful to stay away from positions that require a lot of flexibility and experience. The missionary position, with the woman on the bottom and the man on top, is ideal for a beginner. In this position, the dominance is in the man and the woman does not know what to do. It is also an emotionally satisfying position as eye contact can be established between couples. Here, too, if the man obeys the rhythm of the woman, knows how to act compassionately when he is hurt, and ensures that the woman enjoys it, it will ensure that all sexual relations they will experience throughout the marriage will be healthier and happier.