Two and two make four, water boils at 100 degrees and breakfast has something to do with happiness. Talking about our desires is completely normal. 77 percent of women say they cannot talk about sex. Unfortunately, this is completely fake information. To obtain this data, we would have to talk to all living women. This is a fake statistic thrown in to get your attention. Just like sex is perceived as an act that is monopolized by men, that enables them to achieve satisfaction, and that their rules are valid. That’s it, it’s completely wrong. Having fantasies, equal opportunity in orgasm and some ‘special’ wishes are completely normal.
Writing: Baran Alışkan
USUAL SUSPECTS
The word normal is defined by the concepts of compliant, customary, normal, not excessive and appropriate. Despite this, some things – and in this case we are talking about fantasies – are talked about secretly, considered abnormal or ignored. Sexuality is more a matter of biology. On the other hand, the word erotic is more subjective and is defined by the emotions and emotions that arise in the body. Fantasy, on the other hand, is interpreted as different enthusiasm, different taste and different thinking. However, the earth completes its rotation around its axis in 24 hours. It takes exactly 365 days and 6 hours to travel around the Sun. The Earth’s orbit around the Sun and this entire process create the seasons. This is completely normal for our planet. So is having fantasies and knowing what you want. Women have at least as many desires and, of course, imagination as men. The idea of male dominance in all matters related to sex is a misconception that we strongly oppose. We stand side by side with women who know what they want and express it freely. You are not alone, because fantasies are the most enjoyable reflections of our imagination, regardless of gender. Or is it not normal to talk about this issue?
LET IT NOT STAY BETWEEN US…
Meanwhile, we find ourselves in one of the coolest locations in the city, in a very loud environment and in a deep conversation. Our subject is the usual things, completely normal experiences, fantasies and inevitably advice. A woman in her early 30s who is in a long-term relationship accompanying us at this table expresses that she is happy to share in her partner’s fantasies. She says that, at her partner’s request, they started watching erotic productions together, and that this worked well to ‘get them in the mood’. Right next to him, another woman in her mid-30s proudly states that her fantasy world is quite rich. They attribute the happiness of their marriage to the joint performance of their fantasy worlds. Our friend, who describes their bedroom as a ‘fantastic world’, also adds that costumes are definitely the supporting player in their relationship. On the other side, there is a person in his late 20s who states that he does not consider himself very successful in ‘these matters’. He is someone who has kept up with his partners until now, and although he does not feel uncomfortable about this, he now wants to set his own rules in the bedroom… He is on the eve of new discoveries, pursuing his desires and listening to advice. We all take a quick look at the waiter and renew our orders. Then, we’ll move the chairs a little closer to the table and put our heads together. We have things to talk about at this table.
AT THE BEGINNING, ON THE SCREEN, NEXT TO YOU
We are starting a heated experience marathon right from the beginning. The agenda of viewing habits that completely change a monotonous sexual life falls in the middle of our table. The duo has developed their explorations, which started with erotic productions, into novels full of erotic elements and a carefully prepared inflammatory music list (See Playlist). Sex, which had become a boring task in the spare time from the noise and chaos of the city, was reborn like a phoenix. She does not forget to underline the importance of communication between partners in realizing this transformation with an expensive red lipstick. I don’t think he could have shown better how much he trusted this idea. We learn that talking about everything related to sex, drawing boundaries and making both parties feel comfortable are key to discovering desires. After all, it’s been tried and tested, right? We agree that to increase excitement and pleasure, both parties should be able to honestly share their desires.
GUIDE TO BEING AN ARTIST
Our next topic takes place in a fantasy world. This fantasy world promises greater fun at many points, including bedrooms, where fantasies can be talked about freely and shared desires. In this world where emotional closeness is a prerequisite, the parties are almost defying ordinary sex, relying on the authority given by their imagination and closeness. After sharing their hidden desires with each other, the duo pursued new discoveries. Of course, the first shot was fired by our friend. He rolled up his sleeves to turn into a fictional character that his partner admired. She laughs and explains that she can’t forget the way he looked at her when he first saw her. Thus, they entered the world of ‘role play’ and opened a new page in their sexual lives by taking on different personalities. This is officially an incentive bonus. Because after this moment that broadened his horizons, his partner made it a habit to take on different characters and started a new era in the bedrooms with sex toys. Despite everything, he says that the story that starts with a simple massage accompanied by exotic oils is still at the top of his list. This is completely normal.
MANY TYPES AND ALWAYS EQUAL
We quickly take a big sip of our soft coffee and say the word. We also happily welcome experiences that break the male-dominated perception of fantasy culture. Meanwhile, we feel the need to draw attention to the inevitable end of the story: Equal opportunity in orgasm! We remind you of the importance of the parties reaching orgasm in an equal amount and time and that this analogous action reaches a happy ending together. Because this will be the savior of the healthy progress of the relationship and the countless rapprochements that will occur in the future. As in every moment of life, we do not give up the fight for rights even in the sexy side. Studies show that women reach orgasm at much lower rates during intercourse than men. Yes, this is also completely abnormal.
After personal experiences, some special fantasies and advice stories, we decide to end the day. Our friend, who needs some courage and, as you can guess, never needs help with his imagination, quickly writes ‘communicate with your partner’ in his imaginary notebook. He then adds knowing what you want, setting your own rules and following your desires. He does not forget some road maps for beginners or those who do not know where to start. (See: Start the Game!) While we are in the mood, our hearts are beating faster and we are a little warmer, there is only one thing left for all of us. To get up from this table and reunite with our partner as soon as possible. I guess there’s no harm in saying this. Because it’s completely normal!
Women have at least as many desires and, of course, imagination as men. The idea of male dominance in all matters related to sex is a misconception that we strongly oppose.
START GAME!
- May the strong one win. A scenario in which the balance of power is readjusted and one side gains the upper hand over the other. It’s time to show your sexy and strong side with mutual consent, co-drawn boundaries, and safe word choice. To obey or to dominate, that is the question.
- Hurry slowly. Welcome to this club where clothes are taken off accompanied by quiet but rhythmic music. Striptease is undoubtedly a sexy show, regardless of gender. It may be a new challenge for your partner who shows all his skills when it comes to halay. Ask your partner insistently!
- Some bad words. We have no doubt about your kindness, but at some moments you can abandon politeness. If your partner is not in love with this aspect of you and you are not experiencing an office fantasy, we do not mind going beyond the limits a little. What you say softly into each other’s ears is your only business. However, try not to be too offensive. We kindly request you to do what is necessary.
- Massage master. Forget for a moment about the cocktails you will drink from umbrella-decorated glasses in an exotic geography. A massage oil, expert hands and a horizontal plane are more than enough. Whoever had the harder day, it’s the other’s turn. First relax a little, then you can decide together.
- Out of standards. Yes, we know it’s your bedroom, but how long will you be stuck in here? If you’re on this path, we need some action. You can effortlessly have a new experience by going beyond the standards and the bedroom. A stylish hotel, a romantic chalet, a tall skyscraper or perhaps a kitchen. We reserve the idea of taking a shower together for those who have time issues.
- Have we met you before? Let yourself be reacquainted with the flow of your imagination by taking on a different personality and even supporting it with costumes. Your partner may want to be Batman, but we’re sure he couldn’t find a better Catwoman than you. For those who want to try, you are on the first page of an endless story. You have a nice way.
PLAYLIST
- James Supercave/With You
- The Weeknd/Earned It
- dalida/Love In Portofino
- Michael Buble/Feeling Good
- James Blake/retrograde
- Peggy Lee/Fever
- Marvin Gaye/Sexual Healing
- Anna of the North/lovers
- Serge Gainsbourg&Jane Birkin/Je t’aime… moi non plus
+ - Beyonce/partition