Conservative-Traditional/Constructive (Serotonin)
The dominant neural structure is serotonin. He has a traditional personality structure. Serotonin triggers estrogen and suppresses testosterone. He is calm and respectful of authority. Commitment is developed and they have an orderly life. Can’t work under pressure. He doesn’t like uncertainty, he likes rules. Hierarchy is just right for him. He thinks step by step and likes to make plans. He is patient. It is suitable for group work. He is a defender of tradition. He is careful. He is not a coward. He is conscientious. He has a mental structure that is closed to dogmatic change and is stubborn. He is always after the truth. When he is pessimistic, he turns to fatalism. Some people fail to change things that are bad.
Analytical-Realistic/Director (Testosterone)
In this personality type, which occurs due to testosterone, the ring finger is physically longer than the index finger. Spatial intelligence has developed. While his ability to focus has improved, he is good at music and sports. It is pragmatic. He is a problem solver. Can make brave decisions. Doesn’t give importance to diploma. Testosterone hormone rarely makes people laugh, it makes them more aggressive, and it becomes difficult to make eye contact. For this reason, boys during adolescence have difficulty making eye contact.
Social-Empathetic/Interviewer (Estrogen)
The dominant neural system is estrogen and oxytocin. These types of people are good at writing. He is skilled at seeing the whole picture. Generally, the index and ring fingers are of equal length. Imagination ability is strong. Their minds are occupied with two different thoughts at the same time and this does not tire them. He is mentally flexible. He is empathetic. It has mirror neurons (neurons that help oneself feel what the other person is feeling). He is a good internal observer. He is prone to depression when his attention is on himself. It is romantic. He is good at falling in love and keeping it.
Which one are you?
Saying that these systems are used to make decisions and understand life, Kahvecioğlu says that we are under the influence of whichever structure is dominant. “All of these have advantageous and disadvantageous effects. If we know ourselves, we know what to keep under control, and this control will be more successful.” There are two ways to find out which type you are: The first is to reveal it using an FMRI device, and the second is to answer a 52-question multiple-choice test.
For choosing a compatible partner…
“Marriage should no longer be a lottery. Discover yourself and what kind of partner you should have to minimize this risk. Invest in yourself when choosing a partner and try to reduce coincidences as much as possible. You are what your brain chemistry is. This can be very difficult to understand sometimes. Cenk Kahvecioğlu’s suggestions for a harmonious match are as follows:
• If you have a dopamine dominant structure, it is important for your partner to be dopamine dominant for you to adapt.
• If you are estrogen dominant, your partner should also be estrogen dominant.
• Mutual (opposite) matching of serotonin and testosterone (i.e. serotonin-testosterone or testosterone-serotonin) results in more harmonious marriages.
Article: Burçin Öztınaz
Maybe it’s not ‘your problem’ but ‘it’s me’! We have ignored the scientific ways of finding the right person all these years, isn’t it possible?
We seem to be experiencing the ‘Fall of Love’. Just when we say ‘I found it’, we lose it and miss what is ‘Real’ and ‘Disinterested’. With modern times, it becomes more difficult to find, live and maintain love. Of course, marriage also suffers from this situation. As it becomes easier to access information, communication and even relationships, the reality of love is questioned. Nothing is the same as it was when communication was limited and desires were limited, and the possibility of growing old on the same pillow does not seem as high as it used to be for many of us. All of these lead people to despair about love at first. But instead of losing hope, perhaps what we need to do is redefine love! Reviewing our expectations from the relationship, relying on scientific answers when choosing a partner… All of these may be the keys that will open the door to new and happy relationships. Worth a try!
Which Partner is Suitable for Me?
What’s the secret? “Learning our own biological characteristics when choosing a partner and knowing how to control them will guide us to a happier and more peaceful life,” says Expert Clinical Psychologist/Psychotherapist Cenk Kahvecioğlu. We talked about the effect of hormones on mate selection with Kahvecioğlu, who shared the results of his studies on the role of the neural system in mate selection as a presentation at the 14th European Psychology Congress held in Milan in 2015.
Keyword; Rapport!
Cenk Kahvecioğlu said, “Due to our culture, getting married is important for us. “One of the most important choices in human life is choosing a spouse,” he says and asks: “So how do we choose our spouse? What are our criteria? Are these criteria sufficient to maintain the institution of marriage? He says that the key word for a relationship that will continue smoothly is harmony. So who can be compatible and get along more easily with whom? How do we make the right choice? While writing this article, I asked ‘Who are the happiest couples in my close circle?’ I must admit that I thought a lot about the question. I thought about the answer to this question and then tried to list what these couples have in common. What they all had in common was that they actually accepted each other as they were… Expert Clinical Psychologist/Psychotherapist Kahvecioğlu says that the most common mistake we make in choosing a spouse comes from trying to understand the person as we see them from the outside. “Is the prospective spouse tied to his home? Does he have a job? Will he be a good wife and parent? These are generally taken into consideration. But in reality, it is not possible to understand what kind of person a person will be in the future, and this can mislead us. At this point, understanding what our brain chemistry is like leads us to more accurate results. According to my research, if we are looking for a traditional and calm partner, then people who we neurologically call ‘serotonin dominant type’ may be suitable for us. If you marry someone with a ‘dopamine dominant type’, it will be difficult for that marriage to work. Because your expectations from that person will not be met and he will never be the person you want.”
Dominant Neural System and Mate Selection
We all have different characteristics. Some of us are more harmonious, some are more dominant. Some of us are messy, some of us are organized. While some of us have no problem with authority, some of us may get nervous thinking that it kills our creativity and restricts our freedom. Diploma and money are important for some of us, but not of much interest to others. So why do these differences arise? Kahvecioğlu said, “These systems arise depending on our genetic structure and affect the formation of the neuron structure in our brain while we are in the womb. Because of this effect, people’s perspectives on life and their evaluation of events change. There are typing (systems) named after four different hormones. In fact, we have all of these hormones, but one of them is more dominant in people and this creates that type. “We have names that we give to these systems in accordance with their structures,” he says and lists these four headings as follows:
Curious-Energetic/Explorer (Dopamine)
The dominant structures are dopamine and norepinephrine. This type of personality literally drinks the sediment of life. He is an emotion seeker. Is sensitive to boredom. He is extremely and constantly energetic. There is a tendency to be impulsive. Creativity has improved. It has a procrastinating nature. It can adapt. He is optimistic. He is very unreliable because he has difficulty keeping his promises due to impulsivity. Can be uncontrollable, disorganized and aggressive. Dopamine; It triggers testosterone and suppresses serotonin.