Once you start dating someone, it can take a long time to get to know them. When you fall in love with someone, you gradually begin to explore your bodies as well. You do your best to make the other person happy. When you’re with someone just for sex, the goal is just to live in the moment. Sex is a physical activity, and if there is no love in between, there is no chemical attraction.
Orgasm
Many people think that having an orgasm is about love, but this is completely wrong. Getting excited all over, wanting to shout, or a moment of pleasure doesn’t mean love. It’s just sex. When emotions get involved, that’s love.
foreplay
Foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom, we’re all aware of that now. Because flirting increases the excitement. You catch that chemistry when you meet someone and the sexual attraction is captured in that moment. Sex, on the other hand, is just an act, and while falling in love brings foreplay, there’s not much excitement when it’s just sex. In short, when you’re in love, confetti explodes, and when you’re just with someone, there’s not even a light in the room.
Relaxation
Sex has nothing to do with romance. Just thinking about sex is like having a few drinks after work. For the moment, there is a sense of relief. That’s the difference between love and sex. Just sharing your sexuality is an act you do for yourself. You only live in the moment and the other person is not so important to you.
Text: Nilgun Yildiz
Tired of hearing the same story over and over. We always experience or witness the same things. The biggest problem of women, who are starting to live their sexuality more and more freely, is to be a bedmate instead of being a love woman. Relationships no longer begin with pudding, as our mothers told us, and do not remain innocent until the day of marriage. After starting the relationship and continuing for a while, sexuality becomes the most important item on the agenda. If it means no, it’s backwards! In addition to this situation, there is also the process after going to bed. Maybe because we ignore emotions while keeping up with the speed of our relationships that we start to consume so quickly, even after being with a man we can ask ourselves: ‘What are we now?’ Because we do not have much time to get to know the other person and meeting after sexual intercourse is much more difficult than meeting with long-term dating.
Is it just sex?
If you are wondering if the man you are with is willing to have an emotional relationship with you and you suspect that he is only with you sexually, with some signs you can put an end to these doubts in your mind. If she has these signs too, it’s sad but true, you’re just a bedmate!
Here are the signals
• Whenever you meet and the night ends in bed, it’s time to stop and think. Because the man in front of you seems to be with you only for sex purposes. Of course, it’s normal for dates to end with sex. But if you’re just at the beginning and the dates are only in the bedroom, we’re sorry, but there’s a good chance there’s no room for emotion in this relationship.
• The message that comes to your phone in the middle of the night is ‘I miss you, will you come to me?’ If it’s happening, or if the ‘I can come to you if you’re home’ message is usually sent after 10 pm, you’re defeated again. Because the power of sex has defeated the emotions. It seems that this man’s aim is to continue his life from where he left off after having a good time with you.
• Of course, it is very nice to spend time together at home, watch a movie or have a romantic meal. But if all dating is built on that, if you’re not going anywhere together, if you’re not participating in any social activities, then it’s time to kick back.
• Have you ever thought about what you talk about when you are together? For example, does it tell you something about family or friends? Curious about your family and friends? If your answer is ‘no’, you know what to do because this relationship stinks of sex.
• Communication is very important in a relationship. Seductive messages as well as beautiful words you will write to each other during the day add excitement to the relationship. But if all the messages are about sex, if you’re starting to feel like a 900 line worker during phone calls, we’re sorry but you may be trying to sway the wrong guy.
• One of the most sensitive periods for us women is after intercourse. We want to hug and feel your love. But if the man in front of you goes home in the middle of the night instead of sharing these special moments with you, cuddling and sleeping together, or doesn’t offer you to stay, it means that the alarm bells are ringing again. Because sleeping together is just as special as making love.
• There is also a group of men who take a shower right after making love, and you should avoid these men as far as possible. Of course if you are looking for an emotional relationship! Because if he’s running for the shower while you’re in bed, he may be sending you a ‘it’s time to go’ signal. Tell us…
• Have you ever paid attention to the duration of your meetings? If it usually doesn’t exceed two hours and she always has a plan after every date, we’re sorry, but again, you picked the wrong guy. Because the catch-up trick is pretty classic, but one that is always swallowed up.
• Conversations also give important signals for the status of the relationship. For example, if he avoids talking about his feelings, doesn’t say nice words to you, or if he dismisses it by saying ‘I love you too’ when you say you like him, you may still be having a sexual relationship. At the same time, he is not afraid to hurt you and sometimes acts rudely, if he is not interested when you are upset, we have to say, but you are on your way to becoming a complete sex slave.
Selfishness
When you’re in love, everything matters, both physically and emotionally. It is not a quick experience. You care about him, you want him to be happy too, when he is unhappy, you will be unhappy too. This is another difference between just having sex and falling in love. Because just sharing sex is a selfish act you do for yourself.
Is there a difference?
There is a huge difference between love and sex. We women are often disappointed when we look for the passion we see in romance movies, because relationships aren’t quite like the romantic scenes in romance movies. However, when it comes to love, the chemistry of two people comes together and feelings arise. In sex, this is not the case. Sometimes people have sex just to have sex.