It’s a good sign that you have concerns about moving into the same house. Thus, you can realize how important the decision you make is and what impact it will have on your life. If you have no worries and are comfortable with it, you should understand that you can’t play a house game just by keeping up with a fantasy, you should take a step back and examine this issue for a while.
Do you have pressure?
If you feel pressure to live together – your friends, your lover or even yourself – you may not be ready for this. Experiment, stay together a few days a week, be close, but put that thought aside for a while.
Addiction?
Let go of the cliché thoughts of ‘that’s my missing piece’. Consider that your own life is already wonderful and your partner is something that makes it more beautiful. Make sure you don’t act with the thought of ‘I can’t do without it’.
Escaping from marriage?
You do not feel ready for marriage and instead want to live together. There are too many couples who act with this thought. But this idea doesn’t seem very healthy either. If you are choosing to live together without marriage because of fear of marriage, you should reconsider your relationship.
Have you defined your relationship?
Now take a step back. ‘What are we really? Where is our relationship going?’ Did you give your speech? This may seem funny or even silly to you, but considering that people have different types of relationships, it’s not so silly to sit down and name the relationship. Even if you are comfortable people and comply with all the other ‘living together’ criteria, unless you define your relationship, you are likely to cause a big communication problem.
Did you go on vacation?
Time spent on vacation is like a couple’s trial period before they move into the same house. If you went abroad for 1-2 weeks and spent all your time together and most importantly you enjoyed it, this may be a sign that your relationship is ready to move on to the next phase. But if you’ve never traveled with your lover, you can’t really know each other’s habits.
Have you had a big fight?
Remember that argument you thought your relationship was over. If you have successfully resolved the problem between you and successfully overcome the problem, you are ready to share the same house. Knowing how to handle arguments and disagreements is extremely important for the next phases of your relationship. You will definitely need your own ‘problem solving method’ when living in the same house.
Did you solve your problems?
The time you spend with your lover is the best measure of whether you are ready to share the same house. Think about the topics you are discussing. Do these come up all the time? If your answer is ‘yes’ and neither of you are attempting to solve these problems, that’s a bad sign. Because when you start living together, new problems can break out and this can make everything worse for your relationship.
Did you take a test drive?
Do you stay together often? Then you already know what it feels like to wake up to see your lover every morning. However, if you are thinking of combining your living spaces and you have not experimented with it, staying together for a few nights each week may be a good start.
Honey, have the months passed?
Yes, it’s normal to want your relationship with your lover to be as wonderful as it was on the first day. However, a relationship may not always go the same way. Before making an important decision such as moving into the same house, make sure that your sweet months have passed. These times are usually the first six months of the relationship. Some women say, ‘Why don’t we live together? What’s the point of paying two separate rents? I hate being alone’. If these are your reasons for living together, you should know that you are not yet ready to share the same house with your partner.
Is money at stake?
Starting to live in the same house will of course save you from paying the rent of the other house and its expenses. But that shouldn’t be the reason you started living together. You should avoid sharing the same house due to financial issues.
Have you set your mutual boundaries?
Do not move into the same house until both of you have determined the things that you will definitely say ‘no’ to. Once you start living together, you don’t want to encounter things you can’t stand, do you? From the dirty basket to the kitchen layout, everyone has a home system. Therefore, before making this decision, it is important for both of you to determine the points that will not be exceeded.
Did you set your expectations?
The biggest mistake between couples is not talking. You should talk about what it means to you to share the same house. You should clearly state your expectations.