Sigmund Freud defines sexuality as one of two basic instincts. As humanity, we became civilized and were able to stand side by side by taking our instincts under control while establishing society. Meanwhile, sexuality became a taboo. However, the end of the rope was lost and the relationship established with sexuality broke down. Although there have been events in the world such as the sexual revolution that brought relief to the issue, there are still many problems related to sexuality. Intense repression, traditional society, and past experiences can cause problems in our sexual life. A lack of sexual chemistry that we do not realize at the beginning of the relationship due to curiosity and excitement of a new person may emerge over time. Experts say that it is difficult to continue a relationship without sexual harmony. Don’t be afraid, sexuality is something that can be learned and changed. Here are five ways to capture sexual chemistry.
Know Yourself Sexually
Knowing your body and the areas you are most aroused is necessary for a good sexual experience. Discover what positions you like, what you like, what you don’t like. One of the biggest causes of sexual problems is that one of the partners pretends to enjoy it to make the other party happy. This is a temporary solution. At that time, you will experience temporary happiness because you made your partner happy. However, in the long run, sexuality turns into an activity that you do not enjoy and you start to avoid it. Sexual fantasies are another issue on which partners disagree. It’s important to be open-minded about sexuality, but you don’t have to act out a fantasy you don’t want. You should not engage in a fantasy that you find strange or repulsive just because your partner wants it. But trying fantasies that interest you and that you avoid doing just because you are embarrassed can add excitement to your sexuality.
Get to Know Your Partner Sexually
It is important not to act selfishly in sexuality. Many people want to do things they enjoy and do not think about the other party. However, this situation brings their sexuality to a barren point. For a regular sexual life and sexual satisfaction, it is important for both parties to be happy. Listen to the other side. Discover your body. Try to discover what he likes. This does not mean always doing what the other party says and implementing his wishes. Sexuality is a matter of balance and harmony. Try to find this balance in your sexual life. Listening to the other party’s body will make you open to innovations. It will help you get rid of monotony.
For a regular sexual life and sexual satisfaction, it is important for both parties to be happy.
Don’t Avoid Talking About Sexuality
Talking is important to achieve sexual chemistry. Getting to know your partner doesn’t have to be through trial and error during lovemaking. Sometimes things that cannot be discovered in bed may arise, or if sexuality has been avoided for a long time, there may not be an opportunity to try it. Do not expect your partner to be an astrologer, and do not try to act like an astrologer yourself; talk. We can talk about what we like and don’t like in bed, which areas we like more, and the fantasies we want to realize. Conversations about sexuality will ease your sexual life and provide a recipe for achieving sexual chemistry.
Don’t Force, Don’t Let It Be Forced on You
Being forced to deal with sexual problems is something that alienates sexuality. If your partner pressures you to have sex when you don’t want it, this will push you away from sex. In such a situation, sexual harmony cannot be talked about. There should be no pressure on you to have sex. Sex should not turn into a task for you. Don’t let your partner put psychological pressure on you regarding sex. Warn him about this. If you are doing this, stop immediately. Sometimes you or your partner may move away from sexuality due to factors such as stress. Taking a break from sexuality and resting may be beneficial.
Activities
Many couples tend to continue a form of lovemaking if they enjoy it very much. However, repeating the same thing over and over makes sex monotonous and boring. Be open to trying new things. Although it may seem like the opposite, men actually tend to expect this from women. They think that all problems will be solved with the sexy underwear a woman wears. However, both parties must strive to achieve sexual chemistry. You can be creative about this. Experts recommend twenty minutes of foreplay to arouse a woman. Don’t avoid foreplay. Don’t make love while being drunk all the time. Exercise and strengthen your relationship with your body. This will be very good for your sexual chemistry. If you have tried many things and still cannot reach a solution, do not forget to get help from an expert.