Sexual Health Institute Association (CİSED) Adana Branch President, Family and Marriage Therapist Dr. Taner Canatar stated that marriage is a very important institution in terms of individual happiness and social development.
Explaining that sacrifice and patience are important in marriage, Dr. Taner Canatar noted that being a spouse means sharing life. Stating that spouses are two complementary parts of each other, Canatar said, “Everyone’s dream is to get married, establish a home, have a family and raise children, but marriage is a serious decision. People need to know each other very well, love, believe and trust each other. That’s why the marriage decision should be taken in a hurry.” “It may cause problems in the future. Marriage is no joke; it is a decision that involves certain responsibilities that must be carried throughout life,” he said. Explaining that spouses are close friends who share each other’s joys and sorrows, Canatar said:
“He is the one who lifts you up when you fall, gives you strength when you get tired, is there when you cry, embraces you when you are happy. Couples who are getting ready to get married expect each other to meet their many different needs such as love, commitment, trust, sexuality, continuity of generation, friendship and so on, and ultimately be happy. They will be together for life. Unfortunately, in some of these relationships that were started to be happy, problems begin to arise after a short time. The basis of these problems is that the couples do not know each other well enough before marriage, but after they get married and start living under one roof, they do not realize it until that day. They understand that couples do not know each other well before marriage, do not create realistic expectations about marriage, do not know how to communicate effectively with their spouses, and do not know how to deal with problems that may arise, which can prevent them from getting off to a good start in marriage. “This process may occur because couples do not know how to have healthy sexuality, are not knowledgeable about communication techniques, have not learned how to be parents, or do not receive premarital counseling and guidance services.”
(DHA)