It would be easy for all of us if there was a roadmap to having a happy marriage, wouldn’t it? Unfortunately, such a map has not been found yet, but we have prepared a constitution for you, where you can learn at least the basic conditions of a happy marriage.
Text: Deniz Gürlek
General Principles
Anyone can have a happy marriage.
• The mode of administration of marriage should be democracy. Both parties should be able to freely express their thoughts and feelings.
• The official language of marriage is understanding. “A good woman impresses a man, a smart woman arouses interest in him, a beautiful woman fascinates, an understanding woman possesses him.” Helen Rowland
- The capital of marriage is the house.
• Sovereignty in marriage is unconditional love. “Marriage without love is a shameful act like worshiping without faith.” Anton Chekhov
•The main language of marriage is peace.
• Marriage’s national anthem should not be ‘nagging’. Because this is the element that will most easily alienate a man from marriage. It would be easy for all of us if there was a roadmap to having a happy marriage, wouldn’t it? Unfortunately, such a map has not been found yet, but we have prepared a constitution for you, where you can learn at least the basic conditions of a happy marriage.
“There are few women who do not regret their husbands getting married once a day.” Jean de La Bruyere
“A deaf husband and a blind woman are always a happy couple.” english proverb
•There is no concept of a perfect marriage, because there is no perfect person. Both men and women should know this and accept their relationships with their flaws.
“Marriage would be fine, but not perfect.” François de La Rochefoucauld
• Both parties are obliged to make an effort so that the marriage does not become monotonous. Innovations that will join the marriage, whether it is about sex or other issues, will always keep the marriage alive.
“Marriage must grapple relentlessly with an all-gnawing beast: Habit.” Honoré de Balzac
The main duty of a woman in marriage is to be a wife to the other man. If she tries to be a mother to the man in front of her, it is inevitable that she will find a child in front of her.
• Finally, the rules in this constitution can be changed. Each couple should determine the laws of a happy marriage according to their own expectations.
“The secret to a happy marriage is still a mystery.” Henny YoungmanMiscellaneous Provisions
Women must accept that they are more complex than men can understand. “Woman should love her husband less but understand more; a man should love his wife more but not try to understand.” Oscar Wilde
• Men should see that women are trying to say something without speaking. “A man is truly married from the moment he understands every word that his wife has not said.” Alfred Hitchcock
• Everyone in marriage has the freedom of communication. “How much do you talk on the phone?” will come from the male side. type questions or telephone tampering by the woman to whom the man is communicating with is absolutely unacceptable.
• The main prohibition in marriage is criticism. Criticism, however constructive, is the most dangerous element in marriage.
Fundamental Rights and Duties
In marriage, both parties have various freedoms of belief, such as believing in fortune telling and worshiping the football team.
“It is love that sanctifies marriage.” Leo Tolstoy
•In marriage, both parties should not fall into the comfort of ‘oh I’m married now’. Both men and women attach importance to their appearance throughout the marriage.
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• Everyone is responsible for fulfilling their own duties for a happy marriage. He cannot wait for everything.
“Success in marriage depends not only on finding the wanted person, but also on being the wanted person.” Foster Wood
•The dose of jealousy plays a key role in marriage. Both parties have the right to be jealous as long as they do not overwhelm the other.
• Marriage is not just about being a part of this institution physically. Both parties should put their soul into the marriage and nurture the soul of the other party.
“It is the soul, not the body, that sustains the marriage.” Pubillius Cyrus
• One of the basic conditions of a happy marriage is the law of equivalence. The more compatible and equal the two people in the marriage, the easier it will be for the marriage to continue happily.
“If you want to marry wisely, marry your equal.” Ovid